Back to School: How to Help Your Child Cope and Thrive

The new school year can quickly lose its shine, with tiredness setting in and children becoming less cooperative. As a Play Therapist and a mum of 3, I understand how overwhelming it can feel as you try to settle back into routine. I often felt inadequate, especially when mine were the ones struggling with school drop-offs. Watching other parents seemingly handle things effortlessly left me feeling isolated and as if I was doing something wrong.

Through my training, I’ve learned to view life from a child’s perspective, where transitions are often the most stressful moments. When children feel this stress, it can ripple through the entire family. But with the right approach, you can ease the strain and support your child effectively.

Here are some simple, nurturing strategies to try:

Allow Transition Time -Children need time to adjust between activities. Rushing can trigger anxiety, so stay calm. Tools like sand timers can help, but be mindful of how your child responds. Too much structure can also cause stress.
Validate Their Feelings- Acknowledge their emotions rather than the behaviour. Example: “I see you're worried about school. I know it's hard, but I'll be thinking of you and will see you at [time/place].”This reassures them that their feelings are seen and understood, building connection.
Create a Visual Timetable-Collaboratively create a weekly timetable with your child. It doesn’t need to be perfect—just a way to make them feel secure about what’s coming up. Children thrive on knowing what’s next, giving them a sense of control.
Skip the Q&A After School-After a long day, kids need time to decompress. Instead of bombarding them with questions, offer a snack and let them play. They’ll open up when they’re ready, using play to process their experiences.
Stick to Boundaries-Consistency is key. If you say it's time to stop watching TV, follow through. Offer a clear, specific alternative: "You can watch again tomorrow after school."
Be Clear in Communication-Avoid negatives like “Don’t run!” which can be misinterpreted. Use positive directions like “Walk slowly,” to ensure your message is clear.